I’m opting out of the Recession/Depression. I’m ignoring it all

I rarely shop. I avoid the mall and anything that feels like a mall like the plague.

I’m glad I have finally figured out the difference between shopping for essentials and that other shopping — out of boredom, sadness, anxiety, feeling unfulfilled, trying to buy a better life.

Last year I decided to stop buying all non-essentials for most of the year. I needed a break from consumerism. I wanted to build up my savings a little (and the best way to keep the money that comes in is to stop spending it on junk). I wanted to take a time out from spending, I wanted to keep my credit cards empty, I wanted to enjoy what I have instead of accumulating more stuff. It gave me time to think about my relationship with stuff in a whole new way. And then a few months into my no-spend, all the financial insanity started and I felt really glad I’d dropped out of shopping voluntarily.

I’ve done it before — cut out all non-essential spending — but back then it was because I was dead broke and barely able to pay the bills. I wanted to go on a spending moratorium again but I wanted it to be a choice, not a dire necessity or a punishment.

Last year was good. I still bought gifts for other people, and went on a few looking-not-buying vacations,  Oh,  I still bought books, I love books and I love supporting authors by paying for them. And without so much shopping I had a little more time for reading on the weekends.

Well, and knitting. But I am slow and  for the most part of 2008 I succeeded at my goal — I opted out of consumerism for a while and I got used to spending less, making do with what I already have, enjoying and feeling happy about the stuff  that I already bought and paid for.

I liked taking time to pare down only to what was essential. There’s less stuff to clean and maintain and vacuum. There’s less clutter. There’s less waste.

Right now things are so weird. I work at a prison, and we get the dour news every day all day and of course this industry doesn’t feel very secure anymore, anything could happen at anytime.  Like everyone else, my pension is almost non-existent, maybe. Depending on what memo you read.

So I don’t read any of them.

Nothing feels solid. The news gets grimmer every day — more jobs lost, the Dow is down, on and on and on. And for a while I have been participating in it. I would read all the headlines and watch all the news and look at the market anxiously and then I started not sleeping again, which is just delightful. If it’s not my head, it’s in my head.

And one day I arrived at work after yet another sleepless night and it dawned on me that I could turn off the news, stop reading the financial reports  and memos and headlines and I would have the exact same amount of influence on the economy and job security and the recession as I did the day before — which is to say, none at all.

I decided to experiment. I stopped watching the news. On the weekends I don’t watch the news at all.   I listen to a country western station on the way to work.  I canceled all my email alerts from Bloomberg and Forbes and CNNMoney.

I did all this and the only thing that changed in the world and the economy and in my life was that I felt a little less anxious. And since that was better than feeling crazy, I just decided to opt out of the recession altogether.

So I am not going to the party any more.

I am not going to wake up each day feeling worried about my job or worried about your job or worried about everyone else’s jobs and worried about deflation and stagflation and staycations because my obsessive worry has NO EFFECT AT ALL on the outcome!

How’s that for crazy? Waste all that time and energy and have NO POWER to change it?

The economy doesn’t call me each day to see how I feel about it. If I choose to think about something else, like green beans and herb gardening and vacuuming the house, the economy doesn’t get worse. It doesn’t get better either, in fact I have no control at all over any of this.

All I can control is how I choose to see this whole thing. So I am choosing to opt out of all of it. Whatever’s going to happen is going to happen whether I freak out or not.

So, no news.  I’m going to dump the poverty mentality and just focus on being happy with what I have and grateful for everything that’s going right.

There’s a lot going right —  my dogs are healthy,except Rocket needs her teeth cleaned; I have a place to live, I have a job, there is yarn in the world. I’m going to focus on what is in my realm of control — prudent spending, saving what I can, staying healthy, keeping my thoughts tuned into good things so I can sleep at night.

I realize that this will have zero effect on the economy.

It will make no difference at all in the outcome of anything, just like me sitting at home worrying and following the Dow and reading all the unemployment forecasts had no effect on the outcome of anything.

But things always turn around. I’m just going to concentrate on that, and think about the things that are already great. Like the weather, it’s gorgeous outside today. And tea, I love tea. I’m going to make a big pitcher of tea when I finish typing this and then I’m going to finish up a wee baby sweater. It will make me just as happy as a Starbucks drink and cost me less than a Starbucks chai and will keep me entertained and what more can I ask for?

I know it’s not logical, and that plenty of people will think I’m being an ostrich and burying my head in the sand and so on.

These same people will have long explanations defending their unhappiness, explaining why you have to be worried, why you have to obsess over the bad news. Why it matters that you pay attention and feel bad about something you cannot control.

But I’m not interested in it.  I don’t plan on one minute more of useless anxiety and worry and the uncertainty. I am just going to be OK with the uncertainty. I keep telling myself that lots of things in life are uncertain but they usually work out fine. I tell myself, trust that things will always get better (they usually do) and focus on other stuff.

So I think about planning an herb garden this spring. Some tomatoes in barrels in the sunny spot in the back. Maybe some fennel and asparagus. I need to get some river rocks and tidy up the back of the garden because it’s looking pretty tacky and trashy.

I think about re-arranging the living room. I think about visiting my mom in the summer.

It has the same exact impact on the economy as if I worried all night long: None.

But I already feel better.

And herb gardening will be so much more fun. I’m thinking basil, and cilantro and oregano. A whole backyard of basil. It’s 2009.

I think it can be a really good year, it’s just all in how you look at it.


8 thoughts on “I’m opting out of the Recession/Depression. I’m ignoring it all

  1. That’s good but it sounds too much like a new year’s resolution to me. I don’t do those because I always break them. But it is a good plan.

    I can’t figure out how to upload a photo to wordpress. I don’t even see a box for it or anything.

  2. Well, I tried another post today — got the words up, the photo uploaded but now how did I get the two together before? It is so hard, I am probably going to quit using word press. sigh

  3. Hi Chloe, I don’t go to that party either. I opt for a little bit of news on a non-daily basis and it works for me, too. Having less stress, and a better outlook helps my creative process.

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